Coaching is a great way to grow your business, but if you’re afraid of exploding your coaching business because it could change your marital relationship, then please keep reading. In this article, I’ll give you some helpful tips on how to keep the focus on both of these very important areas of life.
Are you afraid you’ll change and want a different lifestyle?
Sometimes, when people start a coaching business and find success, they become emboldened to make other changes. They might think, “If I can quit my job to work on this business full-time and be successful, what else could I do?”
And you could worry about the opportunities it presents you.
Some people may feel a little stuck in their marriage and due to not having the financial resources, have not yet felt able to leave their marriage. So the possibility of creating a booming coaching business full of cash, might come with the feeling of caution.
“What if I make good money?”
“What changed will that bring to my relationship?”
“Can I face having that opportunity?”
And it is true, for some coaches the fear making money because it will give them opportunities to do things they can’t do now. Consequently, that leads to new decisions being made, of which, some could be somewhat unsavoury.
Are you afraid to pursue your dreams because it might make those around you uncomfortable?
This question is about your priorities: are you more concerned about pleasing others or pursuing your dream? Are you afraid of exploding your coaching business because it could change your marital relationship?
The answer to this question will make all the difference in whether or not you actually pursue what you may consider to be risky.
“If I do this, how will affect other people?”
“Will they think of me differently?”
“Will I become isolated?”
If the worst-case scenario is that you lose some friends, it’s not nice, I’ve been there and it really was not my problem. I go about being fair and reasonable, I don’t always get it right but I do my best. If others are unhappy with my approach, it’s their lesson. And the lesson doesn’t come from me, it comes from their unique perspective of the world. I’m not trying to wash my hands of responsibility, not at all.
I’m a big believer in having people around me who support me 100%, but I also know that there will always be someone who doesn’t understand my choices—and that’s okay! If someone doesn’t support me, then they’re not meant to be in my life (at that moment, or for that decision); they aren’t adding value and won’t help me achieve my goals.
It’s not about being cynical, it’s about being fair and making sure I’m on my life path.
If you fail to follow your true life path, it could lead to regret and resentment.
Are you afraid of having more responsibility and burden put on your shoulders?
If you’re afraid of having more responsibility and burden put on your shoulders, here are some tips to help you deal with this fear:
Talk about it! You don’t have to do it alone.
Explore the options together with your spouse.
Create a plan with your family, and include them on your journey.
Extra responsibilities, such as, how to look after your money, how to maintain multiple coaching relationships and perhaps being the main income earner in the household are now experiences, new opportunities and new lessons.
It’s actually normal for the human mind to stand back from the possibility of change.
Your life becomes a little more uncertain, even if you are more financially stable, it’s a new experience and with it comes new feelings.
Are you afraid that the love for your spouse could fade along with other desires?
Do you think that pursuing your dreams could mean the end of your marriage?
Then if that’s the case, how solid is it now?
Just the thought of your marriage becoming unsteady if you rocket your business shows there are issues right now which ought to be addressed, and that’s not a bad thing. It’s a gift.
But let’s use this as an opportunity to explore love.
As you give love and receive love, we create love.
If you are concerned about the future stability of your marriage and your coaching business could be a mirror for your marriage, embrace it.
It will give you the path, and you choose where to go.
So… Are you afraid of exploding your coaching business because it could change your marital relationship?
In the end, there are no guarantees. Only by taking action will you discover what happens next. But if you’re unsure about whether or not to pursue your coaching dream, remember this simple truth, if you’re trying to protect something that isn’t worth protecting… you’ll know about it.
This article isn’t here to give you marriage advice, and here’s the bottom line, your coaching business will pour truth all over you and the people you connect with. You’ll see life like you have never seen it before and you’ll be posed with questions…some of which you might not like.
However, it all leads to growth.
