An interview with Grace Kostamo Life Coach
What is the biggest obstacle you have had to overcome in your life?
The biggest obstacle I had to overcome in my life is when it comes to setting healthy boundaries with friends and family. It can be very intimidating but at the same time, it also can be liberating.
The worse one is when you get hurt by the people you trusted the most and this can be your own so-called “best friend” or your own in-laws, your own family by blood like your mother, or father, or siblings. I learnt that it doesn’t matter if they are by blood or relatives. If by blood or relative, a toxic relationship can cost you your inner peace, blood is not always thicker than your sense of inner peace.
What are your three top tips to overcome the obstacle?
The 3 top tips are:
- You can empathize but always set healthy boundaries first. Because if you don’t, being empathetic all the time without healthy boundaries is calling for self-destruction. You need to learn how to harmonize the two as in when to use to empathize and when it needs to set healthy boundaries.
2. Let your no be no and your yes be yes without guilt. This is by knowing your place of authority and who you truly are that you master your own emotion and life.
3. Own your own story. Taking responsibility and being accountable for your own decision making good or bad. It shows others to own their own story, and not enable others to take you for granted regardless of who they are to you.