An interview with Vivien Haidig Life Coach

What is the biggest obstacle you have had to overcome in your life?

I was unable to use my voice!

I grew up as an only child to two working parents, encouraged to play quietly by myself. That meant that I was struggling making friends, raising my hand in class and speaking in front of an audience. I had no voice and was often overlooked and singled out. 

By the time I was 13 I was deeply depressed and suicidal. 

When I hit rock bottom and had to rebuild my life, I needed to learn to speak up for myself, to make connections, and let myself be seen. I eventually ended up making a career out of public speaking. 

Life coaching by Vivien Haidig  

What are your three top tips to overcome the obstacle?

To overcome the fear of public speaking and being fully visible, I encourage you to …

  1. Understand your Fear

Look at what is the actual underlying fear. Is it fear of criticism, fear of failure, fear of judgement, fear of rejection? How realistic is that fear? What is the worst and the best case that could happen if you overcame that fear?

  1. Feel the Fear and do it anyways

Once you are clear with what the actual fear is, then step out of your comfort zone just 7%. Do the next uncomfortable step. Maybe for you that is volunteering to do the next company presentation; posting more of yourself and your pictures on social media; doing Facebook lives or IG reels; or even running your own webinar. 

  1. Use Stories to build authentic Connections

Next, you want to tap into the power of storytelling. Stories are as ancient as humanity and they are the social fabric that holds us as a society together. Your stories are uniquely yours and extremely authentic, they give people a chance to get an insight into your life and help build the know-trust-and-like-factor. Through stories you can inspire others to action, build genuine connections and attract your tribe.